As a queer, kinky, polyamorous couple, when we had questions about the nature of our own relationship, we struggled to find reliable resources for support and clear, modern guidance. This sparked our curiosity, and led to much reading, research, and learning. We naturally shared what we found to help our friends, and turned that curiosity into more formal study.
Tied Together is how we want use our knowledge and experience to support the community.
Frankie Danes
they/them • Frankie is a relationship counselor & coach trained in EFT, Gottman Method, and Systemic approaches. Their many years of professional experience working in diversity and inclusion, and their own intersectional identities also deeply inform their perspective on relationships.
They approach every situation with warmth, curiosity, and understanding. Their strength lies in holding space for people to be brave in their vulnerability.
Frankie’s one half of Tied Together with their partner Rey. In their personal time, they perform as a drag king, read, and play D&D.
Rey Danes
they/them • Rey is queer and non-binary, and has been in the kink scene for over a decade. They are a nerd about their favorite kinks, and love discussing scene-building strategies, techniques, and safety practices.
They see huge value in community knowledge-sharing, and they have mentored friends learning safe(r) kink practices for years—which is what inspired them to host public workshops and social gatherings.
They’re half of Tied Together: the queer-owned, affirming, and inclusive counseling practice for individuals, couples, and larger relationship constellations.
Join Rey’s upcoming workshop:
Workshop: Managing risks in kink